Valentine’s Day. The day for celebrating love! The day cupid is supposed to hit you with an arrow. It’s the day we buy cards, gifts, and chocolate for those that we love. The day that, if you’re single, you may feel depressed because you’re not in a relationship. And if you’re in a relationship, it can be a day that you may feel forced to show love that you haven’t shown all year! I must admit that I am not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. Not because I don’t show love every day, but I do feel pressure to buy cards and gifts in order to make Valentine’s Day extra special for those that I love. I spoke to my friend Siggy Flicker, Relationship Expert, Author of “Write Your Own Fairytale and former Real Housewife of New Jersey, and asked her what her thoughts are about Valentine’s Day and what advice she might give to those who struggle with it like me. Here’s what she said:
LW: Siggy, I know how much you love Valentine’s Day, but what makes Valentine’s Day greater than any other day? Shouldn’t we love and be loved every day?
SF: Yes, of course! Michael Campanella and I show love all the time, not only just to us but to our children, our families, and anyone special in our lives. But what makes Valentine’s Day amazing is that we are aware on that day to give EXTRA love. We are loved and we give love every day, but on Valentine’s Day we are reminded to go out of our way to do something extra thoughtful, extra kind and show love. It absolutely should NOT be day to try to make up for the love you didn’t show all year! And you don’t have to spend a lot of money either to make the day extra special!
LW: I remember the times that I was single on Valentine’s Day. I was sad, especially because almost all of my friends were married or in a relationship. As a Relationship Expert, what advice would you give to singles who are alone on Valentine’s Day?
SF: Embrace it! Valentine’s Day should be all about you! If you don’t have a special someone else on Valentine’s Day, focus on yourself and make it all about you! GO PAMPER YOURSELF! Celebrate YOU! Go out and get a foot scrub, get a manicure and pedicure, watch a movie, go do the things that YOU like to do for you! There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself! And there is nothing wrong with being alone on Valentine’s Day!
LW: Ok Siggy, I’m dying to know what you and Michael do to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
SF: I LOVE MICHAEL CAMPANELLA!! Every Valentine’s Day we go to the same restaurant in NYC where we had our first date! It’s very romantic, we focus on each other, not anything else. We have a beautiful dinner together and it’s very meaningful. We love to keep up the tradition of our first date! It makes us both feel so special. But we do celebrate our love every day in many ways, but on Valentine’s Day it’s the day that we give extra love and attention to one another.
LW: One more question Siggy, we all love your sense of style and everything always looks amazing on you, so what do you think would be the sexiest color to wear on Valentine’s Day and why?
SF: Red of course! Red is not a color that some wear every day like black or grey. I think red, especially on Valentine’s Day, symbolizes love! And I love a sexy red negligee! I think anyone looks good in red! Blonde, brunettes, red heads, anyone! Red is sexy, red shows love!
So there you have it! Valentine’s Day should be an example of how we should love and express ourselves every day but with a little extra umph (maybe like a red negligee)! There should be no pressure. To me, it’s not about buying gifts and cards, it’s about making an effort to spend a little extra time with someone we love. To reinforce the love that we’ve shown all year. To keep a tradition alive that you share with someone. A day to actually put aside time to spend with a loved one or with yourself! And I agree with Siggy that being alone on Valentine’s Day can be a day that you celebrate you! Who wouldn’t want that? And we don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day to show love. Love is the greatest gift. We should embrace love whenever we can, whether it be from ourselves or from our partner. Love is love no matter where it comes from!